10 Things Happy Couples Do

I came across this on the forum today and found it very meaningful =) This will perhaps remind us about how to keep up with our r/s with our htb or even wtb after getting wed.

10 Things Happy Couples Do

1. Go to bed at the same time. Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn't wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.

Princess Christine Says: As young working couples, we don't usually have much time spent with our spouse. Therefore it will be good to have a little common activities together for bonding eg taking a walk after dinner or even lounging to some red wines at night. If you like, you can even listen to romantic songs while lounging together => very romantic feeling sometimes but of cos dont do it everyday lol(will lose its magic). Sometimes woodblock and me will share playing nds litte games together =) so enjoy each other companies to the fullest !

2. Cultivate common interests. After the passion settles down, it's common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don't minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.

3. Walk hand in hand or side by side. Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it's more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.

Princess Christine Says: The only thing i have struggle with woodblock will be who is holding whose hands =P SHOULDN'T A GUY be holding and using more strength to hold the ladies hand instead???? AHEM. BIG AHEM!!!

4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode. If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can't resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

Princess Christine Says: Quarreling is an inevitable process in everyone's r/s whther we are wed a not. Do take a step behind when u are feeling angry. My rule of thumb is never let the quarrel exceed more than 1-3 hours. Usually I will apologise first no matter whether i am in the right or wrong because I prefer to put the fight to a halt and I know that it will be easier for us as I am usually the more angry one during quarrels. Afer apologising, it soften the mood and makes things easier for couple to talk things out. BUT it doesnt mean that by apologising, i will just treat it that I am in the wrong because i treat that as a softening process tactic for talks and whether who is right or wrong it doesnt matter anymore. Most importantly is how to work things out and compromising from there.

I did learn about loving him by accepting the flaws with more open arms when I realsie how woodblock is pretty forgiving to me in the past(ops meaning not now =P). Obviously I am the more benevolent one among the both of us now muahahahah

5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong. If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.

6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work. Our skin has a memory of "good touch" (loved), "bad touch" (abused) and "no touch" (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the "good touch," which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.

Princess Christine Says: Well just say that I do like a clean woodblock rather a smelly one lol

7. Say "I love you" and "Have a good day" every morning. This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.

Princess Christine Says: Woodblock's love comes in the healthy breakfast sandwich which he prepares with effort every morning for me. I am geniunely touch to the fullest eating the sandwiches! For me I say too much "I love you" to woodblock everyday whenever I need a favour from him until he always laugh out aloud whenever he hear me say this phrase. He says it sounds like I am trying to BRIBE him into slavery. AM I? Ok mabbe a little bit only.

8. Say "Good night" every night, regardless of how you feel. This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.

Princess Christine Says: Sad to say we only kiss good night and good morning only during weekends lol but better then nothing right =P but that will be after we accuse each other for forgetting to do it the whole week.

9. Do a "weather" check during the day. Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.

Princess Christine Says: I dont think this will work for us. Woodblock is all enclose inside his office to know whether if typhoon ever reach Singapore =(

10. Be proud to be seen with your partner. Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact – hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.

Princess Christine Says: Full marks to woodblock on this one. I dont think any of his friends ever meet him and see him without me lol. I felt happy that woodblock loves my company so much that he likes bringing me out too all his army friends, secondary school frens and colleagues outing. It feels good to have a hubby who is super duper proud of me!

A newfound marvelous heels for the tea ceremony!

I almost drool at this pair of oriental red heels when I see it in the bridal forum today!!! I am now thinking of getting a pair for my tea ceremony!!!!

Perhaps I should ask bliss bridal whether they have any red cheong sum to go with it for my tea ceremony=)

Reflections

Time sometimes passes by really slowly during the agonizing busy times and real fast during those enjoyable moments esp during holiday trips.

I was lazing around this afternoon thinking about my life journey and how fast woodblock and me have proceeded from strangers to bf/gf and now to husband and wife and mabbe daddy/mommy next yr. The ever changing status of us from students to working adults have made me feel that the times that have passes by so far since graduation have been even more fast pace.

Sometimes I ponder if life is going too fast for me to breathe or am i just too caught up in my work and planning of my wedding and room deco that i hadn't had much personal time to myself to buy myself a great cup of coffee and escape to hide in some cafe reading my favourite detective novel like what i use to do during my school holidays as a student.

Therefore for my next coming end yr holiday I am making a resolution to do such a crazy thing again like what i used to and start going back to the cafe to enjoy what i do best - reading and drinking a cup of nice coffee with no interuptions from the outside world and find that little part of my life which I envious most back =)

It can be a little depressing to hear little bits of sad news here and there that happened to pple that i care may it be my close frens and family members recently. I hope everything will turn out better for everyone and of cos including me. Cyberworld can be deceptive but we have to acknowledge the fact no one is living without a single woe to our life. It is natural that humans always have the preference to forget about unhappy stuff and only remember and record the happy days of our life. This is something which I like in particular about human psychology as I feel that the more we hold on to things we dislike, the greater agony we are doing to put ourselves through.

Perhaps this is a good reason as to why I started keeping a blog despite being a lazy person. It is not easy for me to patiently upload all the pics slowly but whenever I do see happy msgs left on the tag boards and emails from btbs sharing how happy they are reading the wedding blog, I cant spell how glad i m that part of the joyous and blissful moments of my life have been shared. That might also be a good reason why I started reading other pple's wedding/food/craft blog as a newfound hobby in order to share a pie to the joy in all these happy experiences.

I seriously have no idea that I would enjoy planning wedding until I started planning my own one. It is so fun to take my own sweet time to source ideas and try it out. Now I fully understnad that why brides need time to plan a wedding because it is enjoyable! Of cos there will be times when we become stressed about crafting out that perfect wedding for ourselves but it is definitely worth the trouble.

I wonder what will be the next thing in life that i will discover my new found interest in? A know it all super mommy? lol

Something best in the Uniiverse has just arrived!

Yep first thing you might be asking is what the hell is the something best in the universe. I hope that you habve not suffer from some memory deficient disorder yet becos woodblock jolly knows very well what is that with the constant reminder on his wallpaper lol


Yay the something best is actually the platform bed i have been yearning about a month ago!! Systemind personnel was pretty nice to me becos I told her I needed it urgently (actually not really =P) and she arrange for the deliver to be made within 2-3 weeks from when I ordered it.

TADA the overview! Yay with the new storage platform bed i can practically get rid of almost all the cupboards in my bedroom(of cos except my wardrobe)

Close up of the platform. The side steps were all use store daily use items like home clothes , socks, woodblock's notebook and ps2 and mine home clothes too. Even the smallest sqaure box at the corner is fully utilitise as storage compartment =) once the mattress is change to queen size(as now is king size) it will be prettier with more steps details and the side table can be placed horizontal along the wall giving more space =)

2 side tables were given by systemind.

One can be use for putting lamps etc stuff while the other table ..... guess where it is ???

haha yeshh! it is the little table that woodblock is using to play games on his notebook!

While I was packing, I came across the kawaii gift from ah li yrs ago when she went to malaysia for a holiday, thought it now complement that settings very well so I took it out to display =) sweet to the bits!

The opposite side of the bed is the remaining cupboard (which is actually empty but I am not sure where to move it to). And we will be getting rid of the tv at the end of the yr to a wall mounted lcd for more space saving solution =)

A surprise from Systemind!

A nice tea set to lounge around and say cheeers with woodblock with our new found spacious room!

Are you tempting to get something best in the universe today? lol

Photolog of ChristineVitor Photoshoot

Sorry for the lack of updates, here are the much awaited fotos.
In chronological sequence
7:00 Depart for Bridal Studio
7:10 Pick up Maria
7:30 Breakfast Search

here's the bride and groom, stuffing their faces for the much draining day ahead.


Maria (Pronounced Mer.ree.yia) and bride
8:15 Arrive back at Makeup Studio

We arrived slightly late due to the delay in search of breakfast, to find Lihua already sitting in the makeupstudio reading newspapers. Chop chop curry pok.
Groom staring at Maria.
Sorry Sir, I will eat less Macdonalds next time.

9:10 Bride Makeup Done, Change into Gown
Groom Makeup

9:25 Groom Makeup/Styling Done, Bride Changed, Continue with Hairdo, Groom to Change

Happy and Looking Beautiful~
Maria personally secretly loves this gown the most. Classy and elegant with lovely embroidery and subtle crystals. So lovely~


9:30 Amidst everything, Photographer and Team Arrives in Studio
10:15: Final look emerged, gather your horses (6 gowns) and men, we're leaving the studio!

Our first Obstacle of the day, security lowered the curtains to the escalators. We cant get down!
Nice security lady opened it for us, Yeay~

10:20 Slight delay but no cause for alarm

We tumbled down to the carpark and squeezed everything and everyone into the car.
AND OFF WE GO~
10:50 First location: The Grand Shanghai Restaurant
From now on, Maria is not allowed to take shoots that are similar to the Photographer's. So all the below are amateur shots just to show you Maria's perspective of what happened that day.

Maria personally feels that the first location had so many setups that made it a really good place for different shots. Maria thinks that this will be the place that will hold many little surprises, producing pictures that many people will not believe was actually taken at a restaurant.
Lihua arrived after packing up at bridal studio, to do up next look for the bride.
Rush rush rush~

11:45 Leaves for 2nd Location: Neil Road
Sky starts to become cloudy, expecting light drizzle

Sir and Madam arriving at next location.
Groom changed into Charlie Chaplin Gear.

Where is Mdm? Ah, there she is. Lihua putting on the veil for her as this is Mdm's actual day bridal gown.


Maria don't understand why Mdm likes to hide under the leaves even though she already is holding an umbrella to shelter from the rain.

Lihua grabs hold of wandering Sir to tidy up his hair once more.

Maria thinks that the Photographer, Steven is very very very professional. He will probably break every single bone in his back to get that perfect shot.

Started to rain, we decided to break for lunch earlier, hoping that the rain will clear later for the railway track photos. Mdm decides to explore while Sir goes and gets the car to bring us for lunch. Maria still doesn't understand why Mdm likes to walk in between and under foilage.

12:45 Sir drives us to Vivocity for lunch. We had our lunch under many watch by many Singaporeans who doesn't seem to think that brides and grooms need to eat also.



1:45 Rushes back to Neil Road to take Railway Tracks; Slight heavier rain



Lihua grabs this opportunity to tidy both of them up again. After much contemplation, we decide to go ahead and shoot despite the rain.

The path to reach the railway tracks was a dangerous one. Climbed over the railings, wobble over the pebbles and gravel, taking care not to slip into the canal, climb over concrete slabs and under barbed wire.



2:30 After much painstaking hiding, running away from guard/security of train depot, huddling in the rain, balancing umbrellas, we decided to leave for the 3rd location. The highlight location of Christine and Vitor's shoot that day - Lunar Bar!

3:00 Lihua and Christine bounded straight to the restroom to change and do up the next look, while Steven and rest of us explored the bar for shoot areas.




Maria decided to follow Sir around while Mdm gets ready her next look. Mdm always say must watch after Sir, in case he gets naughty. Maria understands why now.



Mdm is ready, so its Sir's turn now.



Lihua was very impressed with the masks that Sir and Mdm made so much that she wants a photo of it.

Sir and Mdm in the next outfit and look.


5:30 Finished up at Lunar Bar and changed into the last 2 gowns. Heading to Botanical Gardens!
This was when Maria's camera started to act up funny. Maria would like to apologise for the lousy photo quality due to technical problems.

6:00 Botanical Gardens, wet and drizzling.


Who is this??

Haha, that is Lihua trying to shun away from Maria's camera. The poor makeup artist had to help us carry so many things and gowns that day, stand in the rain, while making sure that the makeup doesnt run. She is really one of the best! That's cute Lihua, using her head to carry the gown for changing later, cos her arms are too tired that day.


Capturing the hairdo on the go.


By the time we finished the whole shoot, it was already dark and we had to make over way back to return the gowns.
It was a tiring day out, but we had really good company so it was an enjoyable day~ And all the unsung heroes that day, Thank you very much for your help!




Finally ending off. Baba yoo~

Written by: Maria aka live reporter aka follow-fart-worm